So, in 2015 my resolutions were all things I thought I’d have a good shot at keeping that would improve my blog/life in small ways – and what do you know, I mostly did them. All bar that pesky ‘master basic sewing’ one. After one botched hem attempt and deep puncture wound it became very clear that YouTube alone could not teach me the fine art (I’ll need to do actual lessons one day to avoid stitching myself to something).
Anyway, I did start writing a similar list for this year and then I realised that actually, I’m generally happy with where I am at the moment and don’t want to make many changes. So, this year I’ve decided to instead set the goal of having a monthly fun ‘experience’ that I maybe wouldn’t have otherwise had. And unlike an unrealistic resolution that requires me to magically master a skill I have zero talent at, I might have a shot at actually doing it!
You see, this challenge will require some diversion of funds somewhere other than the Collectif website and thus a change in attitude is needed. (Er, please note I am setting this goal having got my raid of the 50% off sale out of the way.) I’m not talking about going skydiving every month (ha! Not in this lifetime), I mean things like e.g. going to a nice restaurant when normally a) I don’t have the spare cash for that because… clothes and b) if I do my mindset is that it’s a ‘waste’ blowing it on food because… clothes again and c) I might come to a compromise where I go to a cheaper place instead because… you get the idea. And as well as quality, the quantity of things I do that don’t involve shopping could be better too – so I’m going to add activities wherever I can, even if I’m – gasp – already quite busy that month! (The old me is also unsociable and lazy. Actually the new me is too, but I’m going to try to fight it!)
So far, I’m already making good headway with this goal… B and I have just celebrated our third anniversary of being a couple (we call it the first Sunday of the year). We lined up shopping, a cinema trip and quick meal out on the day. 2015 me would have stopped there, but 2016 me has also decided to go for a special meal this weekend, where I can wear one of the ridiculous number of dresses bought in 2015 before I set this year’s goal to stop buying them (well, all the time, at least). We even know where we’re going, as we’re returning to the gorgeous little gourmet restaurant that threw the NYE Gatsby bash, so here’s a bonus picture of us there (bad quality, B isn’t really that shade of beetroot). That’s January taken care of, at least for now…
February we haven’t quite figured out yet. It’s my least favourite month of the year though – it’s the coldest it gets, work is always manic and it feels like it goes on forever even though it’s the shortest month of the darn year. Of course, I could propose on the 29th… (B is hopeful I’m joking about this, to which I say, ‘if you like it then…’). How’s that for an ‘experience’ – although not sure it’d qualify as ‘fun’? Joking (or not joking) aside, I’m half thinking I should do something around Pancake Day, as that’s, conversely, one of my favourite days of the year. I’m suddenly realising most of my ‘experiences’ are going to be around food. I’m ok with that.
March, on the other hand, we’ve already got sorted. My parents kindly gave B and I a fab gift of a two night hotel stay with afternoon tea thrown in as a Christmas present (told you food was a theme). We’ve already booked it up and will be heading for Harrogate (I’ve never been, but B assures me it’s nice) towards the end of the month. B’s birthday is also in this month, so I’m sure we’ll do something fun for that too and I’ve got one of my best friend’s hen dos, which I’m pretty much solely organising. Nailed it.
April is also in the bag already, as B and I will be heading to Wales to stay with the lovely Porcelina and her husband! I already can’t wait (the picture below is of when we met for the first and so far only time in 2015). She’s promised us the full tourist experience, and for someone who hasn’t been to Wales for a very long time, this is extra exciting (I’m not counting December when I went for work and didn’t actually see daylight; long story). And it’s my friend’s wedding, but I can’t take the credit for that ‘experience’!
And then there’s May. If you’re wondering why there’s a picture of a small child here, see if you can read the badge? It says ‘Birthday girl’ and of course this adorable ball of cuteness who didn’t quite grow up that way is me, on my 2nd birthday. Fast forward a few years and you’ll find someone who’s going to turn 30 this month. So of course I need to have something amazing lined up for that! At the moment, though, I’m not sure what that is… So…
Can any of you help me? Have you already turned 30 and if so what did you do? If not, what would you want to do? I’m all ears as I try to figure out how to see in such a landmark year. Note I did nothing for my 21st and it’s something I’ve always regretted ever since…
Anyway, all this aside (and there’s lots more planning to do!) I do have one more goal, while we’re on the subject of de-prioritising acquiring yet more material goods. I’ve dreadfully neglected one accessory that I’ve had for years… I’m going to do my best to learn to love and use my smile!